Being a husband is both a science and an art. It’s a science because there are certain principles that will help you know what to do and what not to. And it’s an art because you have to “customize” these principles to fit your relationship. I’ve learned that love is an essential, indispensable part of a happy marriage, but it doesn’t revolve around love only. There’s also patience, understanding, and comfort. Here I’ve compiled a list of what I learned about being a husband, and about marriages in general.
Sometimes we get used to having our wives take care of us that we tend to take them for granted. I don’t want my wife to ever feel like she’s not appreciated, so now and then I give her “little surprises.” These surprises can consist of breakfast in bed, doing some of her chores when I don’t have work, and taking her out on a date.
Don’t Let a Small Thing Turn into a Big Thing
Sometimes, when spouses argue, the littlest thing could turn into something huge that was never the root of the fight in the first place. I remember one time I was 15 minutes late for a date my wife and I planned. Naturally, my wife became upset, and we argued. That bit of tardiness turned into a heated discussion about each other’s list of flaws and left us both exhausted and angry afterwards.
I realized that letting your emotions get the best of you will lead to outbursts you might regret later on. Now, whenever my wife and I feel like our arguments are getting out of hand, we take a breather. We pause, part from each other’s company for a moment, then talk about it more calmly afterwards. This yields more positive results, and prevents a big fight. Continue reading